Growing Soul - Dear Guides, You had asked if I want to trust him? My answer is yes. But how can I? Doubts still crop up and I feel a lot of anxiety at such times… You said he is a good man, I know so to a large extent he is. Why do I still feel he lies at times… Please advice, how do I build that trust in him?

You are guarded, my little one, you are guarded.  You have a great shield around you.  You have never even truly allowed him to see who you really are, this beautiful gentle spirit.  For you fear that you are not what he would want.  You feel that that you do not measure up to others, so you fear.  This is where this is from; the fear is why you can’t find yourself to trust for you do not trust yourself.

Oh, blessed one, how do I help you to love yourself enough to allow him to love you, to see you?

Your life, your path, you are very confused often by old understandings and new understandings.  It is time in your path to understand who you are.   So, put away your worry of him for a while.  Let us address you.  You are not just a wife.  You are more than this.  That ceremony did not give away your brain and heart.  It should only enhance your life.  You are wise beyond wisdom.  You are highly intellectual, but you are choosing things less than what you can accomplish to fit into a state and place you believe others think you should be.  But, who are you? 

I hate to be direct, blessed one.  Well, actually I don’t even have hate in my being, but I will say with the directness it is you that you do not trust.   And this is difficult to understand.  He is a good person.  You are a good person.  You had experiences before marriage.    Each day you spend with someone, let that day be anew.  Let it be full of surprise and wonder, not expectations, not rules.

Bless you my child.  We will talk again.

Faith writes:  

I would like to ask if you can speak about this unusual relationship situation I find myself in now, with these two loves, two bonds. What is the best way to proceed?

The guide’s response:

Dear one, you have a strong inner knowing or moral understanding. You desire to harm or hurt or disturb no one. And yet you know that if you should choose one or the other there will be a disturbance, an upset. So to understand this you must truly ask yourself what it is you want or need—and follow the choice that gives your heart the greatest peace.

Both are beautiful beings; both are gentle, loving beings. It isn’t right that one is better than the other; it isn’t true.  Both beings are lovely.  The capacity to love is great within you. You must never fear it. Ancient beings like you always have the ability to love many.

To single out a relationship, this is what you wonder about. But that choice must be made by you, my dear. It’s not that you must make a list of who is right and who isn’t.  Ask your heart, your being. What do you want?  What do you need? Then you will choose. You will choose what is right for you.

BL writes:

I have 2 men in my life and am wondering if either one of them is the one I should look to have a future with. I have invested money with one and am wondering if that is a sound financial decision and could possibly move into a romantic relationship and the other one I have invested alot of time with. I am feeling that I really want to live with a man and have a partner. Are either one of these men right for me or is there another amazing man that is coming into my life? Thank you so much for your assistance. Many blessings.

The guide’s response:

Firstly, blessed dear one, you try so hard always to do the right thing.  You are very fearful of making a mistake or being hurt.  And at the same time you walk that tightrope, wanting to trust, to dance over the horizon, to love.  The simple fact that you query which one, does that not tell you blessed one?  Which do you love?  Which could you love?

One of them is very black/white, right/wrong.  Numbers are his understanding.  He wants very much to go out into the world to prove something.  Does he see you? The other has so many issues, so many difficulties.  You have been an amazing helper and healer, but you don’t know if his depth is there.

You do want to have a partnership but you’re not allowing your heart to feel, to talk to you as to what it must have.  So this is what you do:  ask yourself, if you were in a great need or a deep sadness, to whom would you turn?  And with whom would you feel you could fall into their arms and be held?  And with whom would you feel relaxed enough to tell all your worries and trust that they would just see the light of who you be.  For this is what you want.

You want to share the joy, the laughter, but also the burdens of life.  You don’t want to be the one that they look to for the strength, but you want it to be shared back and forth.  You are a wise being, but you don’t trust your inner voice.  You know there is another yet to be.

But in the meantime you can still have joy and love and laughter.  It does not mean you cannot be with either of these beings—and enjoy their light.  They are as different as chalk and cheese.  And you, my dear, you are the elixir that they crave.  You want to look at someone that way.

Have I answered the question?  No.  Have I presented another one?  Yes.  Oh, blessed one, you are very wise. You already knew the answer.  You are not alone.

Maurice:
Hi friends, I have a very awkward question to ask. I’m not shy to say who I am.  I’m a gay man. In all my relationships I’ve always met married man. I never understood about that. Now I’ve met a man, very nice, someone I was looking all my life. But he told me he was married! I don’t understand about that.  I know now that I can’t be attached to someone like that. Probably relationship is not for me?  Thanks.

Well, my dear, if that is what you want to believe then that is what you will manifest.  You have been looking at married people wanting companionship.  You want to be with a married being.  Perhaps you should make it much more clearer that you wish to be married to them.

Marriage is a word that your society deems that some should choose and be together forever.  That is a society’s need. But spirit must be with that that is, whether meant to be with or for few promises perhaps, or just simply for the joy of love.  If you wish to be unhappy and sad, then you can– if you wish. But I believe you want me to talk to you out of this.

I believe you want me to tell you that there is a wonderful being for you. But you are not going to meet him through the energy fields that you have been using.  You are going meet on a wonderful walk one day where you will enjoy another being’s lovely little dog and you will start a conversation that is lovely and light.  I will leave you there because of your bright vision of  happy days.

Bless you my dear.  And there is nothing you need to fear or be uncomfortable about.  You are a beautiful being.

Funtastic – Hi Guides and Helpers, please tell me what went wrong between K.C. and I. Did I screw it up? I want to learn from this experience. How will I know the right one has come along for marriage? My ideal is to marry on 12-21-12 because of its significance. I know sometimes I can be too trusting. I must work on this. Thank you. Much light and love to you all.

Dearest one, you may think too much.  It is time for you to find some joy and laughter and fun.  It is time to not conform, to dance, and giggle and laugh.  After each meeting of someone in the quiet of your own heart you examine and re-examine and go over the conversations inside, outside and upside down to the point, yes, where you become so tired of it that you recoil from people.  You do not give them a chance to love you.

As to some date my dear, that is not the way to choose a partner for marriage.  It has very little to do with numbers although humankind has a great love trying to categorize.  But how could anything as amazing as you be categorized?  A blossom that has bloomed in a parched desert where there has been much poured at you but nothing mentioned. You have come through this as the most radiant flower of a cactus in a spring rain, for you trust there will be a happy ending.

And because of this my dear, you will find the love when you dance, when you laugh, when you let go of expectations and numbers.  Take a moment to look on your path and see what I have spoken.  See how you have made your way to the light, not the end of the road as you now can see the road.  Bless you my child, you have done no wrong.  What went aside was just you working too hard.  Relax and have fun.  Bless you.